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Want to Know Why There is no Such Thing as "Toxic Femininity?"


Why is there no such thing as “toxic femininity” in SJW parlance? It’s because the idea of “toxic masculinity” owes its existence to critical theory. Critical theory, (sometimes called social Marxism, which I think is a more helpful description) is the foundation of the modern social justice movement and it undergirds modern gender theory. It incorrectly reduces most human interaction, relationships, and politics to oppressors vs. oppressed, but its most egregious error is that it judges individuals primarily by their membership in either of those classes. Individual character and behavior are not enough to free any man from the personal portion of the guilt he bears through the collective guilt of the patriarchy. A man’s only hope for salvation comes through self-loathing, and the deconstruction of any aspect of his (and other men’s) own nature which seems distinctly masculine. Similarly, the only way a woman can lose her moral high ground as a member of the oppressed class is if she participates with the patriarchy in her own oppression. Yes, both men and women are capable of bad behavior. Yes, both men and women have negative behavior patterns that are more typical for members of their own gender. However, the SJW (i.e., critical theorist) views these behaviors in men as systemic flaws in masculinity which can only be rectified through the complete and indiscriminate dismantling of everything distinctly masculine. If the SJW even recognizes the existence of negative behavior patterns among women, she writes it off as rare exceptions that prove the rule, or most preferably, simply blames those behaviors on the fact that women are oppressed by men.

The problem with the concept of toxic masculinity isn’t that it’s wrong in its observation that there are a lot of idiotic, and even evil men out there that need to be stopped. It’s not wrong to suggest that, given the chance, it would be appropriate for other men to attempt to stop the knuckle-draggers from doing their thing. It’s a problem because it is a disingenuous bait and switch by SJW’s. They aren’t simply out there to help bad people stop doing bad things. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be so selective in their crusade, and they would actually target the people doing bad stuff, instead of implying that these issues are endemic to all men, (except the ones rolling over for the SJW movement) implying that the men who aren’t on board with their program are somehow contributing to the problem. In fact, anyone that stops for a minute to think will realize that all the SJW’s hand-wringing and gilt-tripping is virtually ineffective at actually getting the attention of the men responsible for bad behavior. These are men who aren’t in positive relationships with other men that challenge them to be better. They aren’t men that are going to watch a sappy tv commercial and think, “Hey, they’re right, I need to stop objectifying and raping women!” The purpose of the entire “toxic masculinity” narrative is not primarily to stop bad men, but to persuade good men that they are at fault for the bad men, and therefore they need to suppress or surrender their maleness and adopt the underlying assumptions of the social justice movement and critical theory.

However, men of character don’t need the #metoo movement, or a TV commercial to know that mistreating women is wrong. We’ve been fighting for a very long time the promiscuous culture created by the sexual revolution and decades of leftist indoctrination through academia and popular culture. We recognize that reducing sex to a transaction of desire and consent is precisely what enables and protects creeps that use it to control and dominate women. We know that men who have strong male role models that teach them to be men of character make the kind of fathers, brothers, and sons that our society needs. These men learn to protect women, not out of condescension, but because of the high value that we place upon them. We value courage and grit in the face of adversity, strength and power to fight evil, and kindness and compassion for the weak and the vulnerable. We deny ourselves and our impulses to ensure that those within our care and protection receive what they need first. We lead by words and example as ones who never ask someone else to do what we ourselves wouldn’t or haven’t done. We also recognize the cowardice of being unwilling to speak unpopular truths with clarity and sound reasoning in a culture that long-ago abandoned truth and reason for emotional equivocation. Can women do some, or all of these things? Sure. But we know both intuitively, and from the available data, that our world needs men to stand up and fulfill our roles using our typically masculine gifts.

This ideal of classical masculinity didn’t come to us five minutes ago because #metoo showed up and told us what we already knew – that Hollywood and Washington are both filled with immoral creeps. We’ve been preaching this for centuries. We don’t need critical theory to get there. In fact, critical theory accomplishes the opposite of what we need (that’s because its goal is political power, not actually fixing any problems). It persuades men to back away – preaching to them that they’ve so terribly messed up the world that the only hope for society is the total abandonment of their place in it.

So, rather than making silly ads on TV that do nothing but polarize people (and probably tank your razor business), here are some things that can be done. If you want to help men to stop objectifying women, stop selling literally everything with the help of (airbrushed) naked female bodies. Stop making movies and tv shows that portray casual sex as inconsequential and fail to show the real costs of promiscuity – rampant STD’s, broken hearts, broken homes, and victimized women and children (including the unborn). Stop making all TV dads out to be complete morons, and sending children the message that their parents, especially their fathers, are complete buffoons, who just don’t see how special they really are.

In summary, if SJW’s want to join the fight to address bad behaviors among men, they should stop doing everything in their power to dismantle the family, and separate boys from the best support structure available to learn what it means to be men – the guidance and example of men who embrace their masculinity and model it with character and virtue.

It’s time to flush the social justice and critical theory claptrap. They’ve showed up too late to fix problems they’ve caused, and they’ve brought along nothing helpful. We just don’t need more bad ideas.

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